"The amateur fears, above all else, becoming (and being seen and judged as) his or her self." -- Steven Pressfield (from Turning Pro)
I was 24 years old and had just been given my first team to lead.
Externally, I was like GAME ON, LET'S DO THIS!
But on the inside, "who am I to lead and train salespeople?"
For 9 years, this voice got louder and louder. "What if I get seen for who I really am--that they see the truth that I really don't know what I'm doing."
Let me tell you how to get your hands around imposter syndrome...oh and btw it's not what you think!
Note: The book I mention from Steven Pressfield is called The War of Art (not the art of war) - click here to get a copy for yourself.
At 11 years old, I was roping in the county fair rodeo.
But I wasn't a real cowboy...
I didn't grow up on a ranch. We didn't own cattle.
Growing up, I worked in a small-town grocery store.
But everything changed, when my mom, Lisa, met Bruce.
As a business owner and leader, you have an opportunity to give your people a great gift.
That gift is personal ownership.
I promise you that if you expect more from others, they'll expect more from themselves.
In this video, I share a personal story with you that will change the way you think about a key role you play for the people you lead.
In our attempt to not hurt others' feelings they never hear what needs to be heard.
If you've ever felt like you're walking on eggshells with a team member, your spouse, or anyone, then you know what I'm referring to.
...and most of us (if not all) have been here!
By you not saying what needs to be said, the other person never hears what needs to be heard.
You never get your needs met and you go on tolerating more of what you don't want in your business, on your team, and most tragically your life!
What if you were to focus on getting your needs met, to saying more of what needs to be said?
What if "good enough" isn't good enough.
How could you communicate your truth to others effectively?
I say your truth because we each have a perspective.
Whenever we communicate with someone our goal is to understand each other's perspective.
Once this happens the real conversation of solving issues and moving forward can occur.
So where are you holding...
It still wasn't done! We talked about it two weeks ago and I even checked in last week.
I couldn't have been more clear and it still wasn't done-done.
It was kind of done but not really.
This wasn't the first time either, this has been happening for months! Things just weren't finished the way I wanted them to be.
"How can I better support you?"
"What do you need from me?"
The response I'd hear, "nothing, I'm good, I'll get it done."
In his mind, IT WAS DONE...
But it wasn't really done!
So, I'd be frustrated and finish it myself.
"This isn't ok, I'm not putting up with this much longer! I'm getting tired of having to finish his work!"
A friend asked me, "what if I were to ask HIM how things are going...?"
He'd say, "it's all good!"
That's when I realized, this was on me! I wasn't expressing to him what I really expected.
How was I contributing to this difficult situation?
I wasn't being honest!
You've gotten nowhere except knowing that you have a problem.
You've been talking about this sticky issue for months now! When is your team going to decide to do something about it?
Sound familiar? This is a common experience for so many business owners.
We beat problems to death and still are no closer to creating what we want to see in the business. Seldom do we talk about what we really want to see and how we can make that the new reality!
The bad has more weight than the good, so we focus on what we don’t want. This keeps leadership teams around the world stuck on the hamster wheel of endless frustrating discussions, feeling powerless to effect change.
What would it look like for you and your team to become masters at creating solutions to the many...
Give somebody one million dollars and they’re not going to hesitate to make changes.
If there was a magic pill that was scientifically proven to cause weight loss safely, people would buy it off the shelves faster than toilet paper in Corona 2020.
People love the idea of change, especially when it’s something they know they want in their lives. But yet they still don’t pursue it. Why not?
It’s not change that people are resisting, it’s the thought of losing what they have.
It’s only normal, when contemplating a change, to cling to what you know and what you already have. Even though it’s not what you want--it’s familiar.
At times guilt will arise: “I should be grateful for what I have.” (especially considering the world today)
If not guilt, then it’s worry and ...
DOING LEADERSHIP is based on grit, determination, willpower, certainty, and authority. At its core, BEING LEADERSHIP is creativity, collaboration, objectivity, presence, curiosity, and easy confidence.
DOING LEADERSHIP is exhausting, BEING LEADERSHIP is effortless.
When leaders are able to make the fundamental shift from Doing to Being everything changes.
Being Leaders have adopted a true inner-confidence that sustains them through adversity and it inspires others.
They're no longer driven by results only, but instead, focus on what they can control--their own performance. The confidence that they hold doesn't come from past results but from an inner-belief that they can do hard things.
BEING LEADERS drive the results and don't allow the results to drive them.
Seeing themselves as powerful, they also see the...
Don't you? What if you could have more control of your day, your time, your team's performance, and the results the business creates.
Let's get one thing clear first...
The desire for more control doesn't make you controlling. It's understandable that the last thing you want is to micromanage your team and be involved in every detail.
What would be different if you were to have the type of control that you want?
In this video, I'll show you how you can get more control TODAY! When you set this one simple practice in motion you'll be able to show up with an easy confidence found in the greatest of leaders.
In this video, we'll explore a simple way for you to gain more control of your day without being controlling. This simple but powerful practice will leave you feeling energized, focused, and confident to tackle whatever comes your way.
You'll feel like you're in control...
You might also love to solve-problems. You love fixing things and enjoy the satisfaction of knowing you were able to help find the solution.
When it comes to leadership (and human beings), problem-solving might do more harm than good.
You see yourself as having "bad habits" or things about you that "needs improving". You feel like there are things that you want to "fix".
The same goes for those you lead (I know it has for me).
You look out into your team and you see people not living up to your expectation. You might often be thinking, "how do I get them to take more ownership, or how do I get them to work with more urgency"?
That's just it, you are approaching yourself and your team as a problem to be solved.
Your "problems" sometimes can't be solved, but you can find the opportunity to create more of what you want in every...
It's understandable that we delay making changes because of not knowing if they are even the "right" changes.
What if we're wrong? What if we can't do it?
If you have any discontentment in your life or feel you're starting to go through the motions, then it's a good sign that this video is for you!
You're about to discover a new powerful belief that you can hold that will take you into a new and exciting chapter in your life's story...
In this video, we deal with topic that everyone wrestles with...the desire for proof that we are doing what we're supposed to be doing.