Being the Servant Leader While Avoiding the Compassion Trap

Sep 20, 2020
It’s common to hear leaders talk about empowering their people--as in “I’m trying to empower my people, but I just can’t get them to take ownership.”

Imagine. I’m your manager, and I walk over to you carrying a pen and tell you to take it.  You grab it, but I won’t let go.

I look back at you, frustrated, asking, “what is wrong with you?”  “Why can’t I get you to take my pen?”

How’s that going to work out for me and you?

When Empowering Others Gets Misplaced

Empowerment means delegating power to others.  It's interesting to think that people need permission to take ownership.

Patty McCord, former Chief Talent Officer at Netflix and author Powerful: Building a Culture of Freedom and Responsibility, tells us that people already have power and to not take it away.

“A company’s job isn’t to empower people,” she says. “It’s to remind people that they walk in the...

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Knowing When to Quit and When to Keep Going

Mar 12, 2020

Some times we just need to quit.

We need to quit what's not working so that we can pursue more of what will. But it's not that easy, is it?

How are we to know when it's time to quit? And what will others think of us as we do?

And then there's this idea of GRIT--that we are to persevere through adversity, no matter what.

No wonder quitting is a touchy subject, albeit important.

What is it costing you to continue pursuing what is no longer serving you?


In this video, we explore how you can know when to quit and when to stay the course. 

You'll learn more about:

1. The "don't quit" trap and why it's important to quit the wrong thing.

2. The two things to consider when it comes to quitting

3. The best way to prepare yourself to stay on the path of a meaningful journey


While we're on the topic of maximizing who you are as a leader, have you checked out this Executive Morning Plan?



Knowing When to Quit and When to Keep Going

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4 Words Every Successful Person Knows

Jan 03, 2020


"I know what I want but I just don't know how to get there," a client recently told me.

It makes perfect sense that you'd be reluctant to take action when you're unsure if it'll even work. 

With so much to do already, it's understandable that you're reluctant to experiment with taking actions toward new goals.

On the other side of this uncertainty, however, you might just find the answer.  Anything worth doing takes a little bit of faith.

Faith means letting go of outcomes and choosing to take steps into the dark unknown to find your proof--your answers.

In this video, I show you the four words that every successful person has absolute clarity in.  Start here, apply some faith to the equation, and you might just be amazed at how much influence you have to create the results you desire.

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What To Do, When You Don't Know What To Do

Dec 19, 2019

So, what do you do when you don't know what to do?

Ever had that icky "I'm stuck" feeling, where you just don't know what to do?

It would make sense that it's a difficult question to answer.  You have choices, but that's part of the problem, right?

There are so many choices and options it can feel overwhelming and the pressure to choose the "right" choice can be paralyzing.

So what then are you to do?  

In this video, I share some new but simple strategies you can apply right now to get some clarity on this very question.  

Timestamp Summary:

0:01 - The "doing" dilemma - why do we get stuck on this question in the first place?

4:28 - The do more to be more trap

5:00 - Know your values and shift your perspective

7:04 - What you're really after is a specific feeling, what is it?

11:15 - Where are the gaps in your life that are creating the dissatisfaction?

12:20 - To BE or not to be, that's the question...that lead's to clarity.


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How To Know What You Want

Sep 08, 2019

“How do I know?” A client asks me as they shared their experience of being in a “fog” and wanting to find more clarity.

We all want a little more clarity for our lives. When we don’t know where we’re heading it's normal for us to question if we indeed are moving in the right direction.

But that’s just it…There is no way of knowing the right direction toward the right outcome. Implicit in feeling the need to have this answer is a fear of getting it wrong.


What if you were to see life as an adventure; a game that cannot be won or lost, only played?


There’s this idea, especially in America, that for us to be successful, up and to the right is the only trajectory that will get us to where we think we want to go.

This mindset is the very reason we scrutinize every opportunity. We have to know that it is the right one.

We all know success will most likely look like this:

But we still cling to the idea...

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