In our attempt to not hurt others' feelings they never hear what needs to be heard.
If you've ever felt like you're walking on eggshells with a team member, your spouse, or anyone, then you know what I'm referring to.
...and most of us (if not all) have been here!
By you not saying what needs to be said, the other person never hears what needs to be heard.
You never get your needs met and you go on tolerating more of what you don't want in your business, on your team, and most tragically your life!
What if you were to focus on getting your needs met, to saying more of what needs to be said?
What if "good enough" isn't good enough.
How could you communicate your truth to others effectively?
I say your truth because we each have a perspective.
Whenever we communicate with someone our goal is to understand each other's perspective.
Once this happens the real conversation of solving issues and moving forward can occur.
So where are you holding...
It still wasn't done! We talked about it two weeks ago and I even checked in last week.
I couldn't have been more clear and it still wasn't done-done.
It was kind of done but not really.
This wasn't the first time either, this has been happening for months! Things just weren't finished the way I wanted them to be.
"How can I better support you?"
"What do you need from me?"
The response I'd hear, "nothing, I'm good, I'll get it done."
In his mind, IT WAS DONE...
But it wasn't really done!
So, I'd be frustrated and finish it myself.
"This isn't ok, I'm not putting up with this much longer! I'm getting tired of having to finish his work!"
A friend asked me, "what if I were to ask HIM how things are going...?"
He'd say, "it's all good!"
That's when I realized, this was on me! I wasn't expressing to him what I really expected.
How was I contributing to this difficult situation?
I wasn't being honest!
DOING LEADERSHIP is based on grit, determination, willpower, certainty, and authority. At its core, BEING LEADERSHIP is creativity, collaboration, objectivity, presence, curiosity, and easy confidence.
DOING LEADERSHIP is exhausting, BEING LEADERSHIP is effortless.
When leaders are able to make the fundamental shift from Doing to Being everything changes.
Being Leaders have adopted a true inner-confidence that sustains them through adversity and it inspires others.
They're no longer driven by results only, but instead, focus on what they can control--their own performance. The confidence that they hold doesn't come from past results but from an inner-belief that they can do hard things.
BEING LEADERS drive the results and don't allow the results to drive them.
Seeing themselves as powerful, they also see the...
Don't you? What if you could have more control of your day, your time, your team's performance, and the results the business creates.
Let's get one thing clear first...
The desire for more control doesn't make you controlling. It's understandable that the last thing you want is to micromanage your team and be involved in every detail.
What would be different if you were to have the type of control that you want?
In this video, I'll show you how you can get more control TODAY! When you set this one simple practice in motion you'll be able to show up with an easy confidence found in the greatest of leaders.
In this video, we'll explore a simple way for you to gain more control of your day without being controlling. This simple but powerful practice will leave you feeling energized, focused, and confident to tackle whatever comes your way.
You'll feel like you're in control...
You might also love to solve-problems. You love fixing things and enjoy the satisfaction of knowing you were able to help find the solution.
When it comes to leadership (and human beings), problem-solving might do more harm than good.
You see yourself as having "bad habits" or things about you that "needs improving". You feel like there are things that you want to "fix".
The same goes for those you lead (I know it has for me).
You look out into your team and you see people not living up to your expectation. You might often be thinking, "how do I get them to take more ownership, or how do I get them to work with more urgency"?
That's just it, you are approaching yourself and your team as a problem to be solved.
Your "problems" sometimes can't be solved, but you can find the opportunity to create more of what you want in every...
It's understandable that we delay making changes because of not knowing if they are even the "right" changes.
What if we're wrong? What if we can't do it?
If you have any discontentment in your life or feel you're starting to go through the motions, then it's a good sign that this video is for you!
You're about to discover a new powerful belief that you can hold that will take you into a new and exciting chapter in your life's story...
In this video, we deal with topic that everyone wrestles with...the desire for proof that we are doing what we're supposed to be doing.
Great leaders knew this to be true!
Instead, of reacting or responding to their circumstances they brought a new vision and got to work creating it.
There are three leadership orientations and leaders tap all three in their own unique way. But it's in the third orientation that distinguishes great leaders!
Which leadership orientation do you spend the most time in?
In this video, we'll explore why the greatest leaders in the world were not problem-solvers.
Too many leaders boast about their ability to solve problems. I think it's missing the point of great leadership.
Transcript - May 14, 2020
The greatest leaders...
As we get ready for the new year, many of us start to think about setting goals.
How did this year go for you?
Sometimes too many goals get set and none of them get accomplished. Other times, the goal is just to survive.
Maybe there's a season of life you're going through like welcoming a new baby into the world, buying a new home, and starting a new job. During these times it's normal to set aside our goals and instead the focus is on just getting through it all.
But you're here reading, so it's safe to assume you're a high-achiever and goals are on your mind.
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